Always Watch The Eyes

My friend Dan and I were walking down Melrose Avenue around lunchtime when it
happened.

Dan is one of my “natural” friends.  He’s the type of guy who easily picks up women
wherever he goes.  That day, we had gone down to Melrose to pick up some new clothes,
since most of the trendier stores are located there.

Of course, this also means some amazingly beautiful women are located there too!

During the afternoon, you can have hundreds of beautiful women walking up and down
Melrose Avenue shopping, eating lunch with their friends, or just hanging out.  Most of
them tend to be rich girls who don’t have to work.

Dan and I were heading towards the Johnny Rocket’s café.  I was talking about how I
needed to lose a few pounds to fit into some of the trendier shirts for sale in the shops
around here.

I was so into my conversation, that I didn’t notice the 5’6 brunette who passed me by.

Suddenly, Dan disengaged from the conversation and watched the girl go.  I looked at
him.

“What?” I asked.  “What is it?”

“Did you see that?” Dan asked.

“No, what happened?”

“She just checked you out,” Dan said, smiling and nudging me.

I turned and looked at the brunette.  She had kept walking, not even turning back to look
at me.

“No she didn’t!” I said.  “You’re full of crap.”

“You mean you didn’t notice?” said Dan.

“Notice what?  What the hell are you talking about?” I asked.

Dan shook his head.  “Joe, you need to wake up and stop being so oblivious to your
surroundings.  I bet women check you out all the time and you don’t even know it.”

I was taken aback by this.  “You can’t be serious.  I never have women check me out!”

“How do you know?” asked Dan.

“Look at me!” I said.  “Why would anyone check me out?”

“Why would anyone check me out?” Dan said, raising his arms to expose his whole body.
Dan may have been a natural, but he was 5’5 at best, with a bald head, pudgy gut, snagled
teeth, and a mangled left hand he had been born with.

Dan was a far cry from your typical idea of a ladies man.  But time and time again, I had
seen him pick up some very beautiful women just by his attitude.  That’s partly why I
became friends with him, to learn from him.

I sensed I was about to learn something at that moment.

“By all rights, women shouldn’t be checking me out, but they do,” said Dan.  “And they
check you out too.  Stop trying to project how you operate in your own head on women,
and don’t try to understand them, man.  Just accept the fact that you never know what
women will be attracted to, and go with it!”

“But, if I don’t know what they’re attracted to, how will I know if they’re checking me
out?” I asked.

Dan tapped me on the noggin.  “Pay attention, dummy.”

I rolled my eyes.  “Gee, thanks for the fortune cookie advice.”

Dan sighed.  “Do I have to teach you everything?”

“Apparently,” I said, getting a little irritated.

“Look, I’ll make it simple for you,” said Dan.  “Just look at their eyes.”

“Their eyes?”

“Yeah.  When you see them go like this…” Dan looked down at my feet, then scanned
his eyes back up to my face without moving his head.  “That means they just checked you
out.”

“Get serious,” I said.  “That’s just a glance.  Everyone does that.”

“And for what purpose?” asked Dan.  “When you see a hot girl, what’s the first thing you
do?”

“Um…”

“You look at the rest of her to see if the whole picture is something worth pursuing,” he
said.  “When that happens, what do you think your eyes do?”

Dan demonstrated the glance for me again.  As I thought about it, I realized he was right.
When I saw a girl’s face, the first thing I’d do would be to look up and down her body
instinctually.

“See, when a girl sees something she likes about you, she’ll scan the rest of your body to
see if there’s other stuff she likes,” explained Dan.

“But what if the stuff she doesn’t like outweighs the stuff she does like?”

Dan shook his head, “Doesn’t matter!” he said.  “What matters is that there was one thing
– just ONE thing about you she DID like!  And all it takes is one thing.  Once a woman
checks you out, that’s an invitation for you to pursue her.”

For the rest of that day, as we walked around, I paid close attention to the eyes of the
women we walked by, and sure enough, to my surprise, Dan was right.  There must have
been five or six girls who checked me out as I passed them by.

Dan was right to tell me to pay attention to the eyes, as the eyes are the most important
body language indicator there is.

Understand:  The eyes are the window to the soul.  They will always betray what a
person is thinking, if you’re deft enough to pay attention to them.

I’m going to share some secrets about eye contact with you that is going to help you meet
women like crazy.  I hope you’re ready for them, because I’m really spilling the beans
here.

Are you ready for it?

Here they come…

Secret #1:  The Vertical Scan

This is a major body language cue, and one that is hard to pick up if you’re not paying
attention.  Think about a woman you’ve seen that you found attractive.  What did you do?
Catch one look at her face, then looked down over her body, going from head to foot,
right?
In short, you were checking her out.

Women do the same thing.  When they see a man they’re attracted to, their eyes will go
from his face to his feet, because they want to see the whole package.

When you make eye contact with a woman, look at what her eyes do.  If they flick
downwards, guess what?  She just checked you out!

She liked what she saw in your face, and wanted to see the rest of you.  It doesn’t matter
if she looks away immediately afterwards, because she was attracted enough to you to
check you out.  That, my friends, is a major signal that she will be open to you
approaching her (especially if the vertical scan is followed by a smile!).

The only problem with this great signal is that it’s so easy to miss!  Women you haven’t
noticed yet may have already done it.  Also, it’s such a quick action, you can easily miss
it if you’re not careful.

So when looking for the eye scan, always pay careful attention!

Secret #2:  The Horizontal Scan

This is one of my favorite body language cues, because when this happens, you know
you’re in the home stretch!

This usually occurs after you’ve been talking to the girl for a while, you’ve successfully
attracted her, and it’s time to kiss.  When you look deep into her eyes, you’ll see them
flicking back and forth as she looks from one eye of yours to the other, trying to get a
read on you.

When you see this happen, go for the kiss right there!  She’s ready for it!

Secret #3:  Dilated Pupils

I’ve mentioned this one before, but I’ll reiterate it here.  A woman’s dilated pupils is an
unconscious attraction response.  The wider the pupils, the more attracted and excited the
woman is getting.

You’ll know what you’re doing is working when you look into a woman’s eyes and
notice the black iris part is rather large.  This is commonly referred to as the “Doggy
Dinner Look,” that you’ll see in cartoons when a dog is silently begging for it’s master to
feed it.

The problem with dilated pupils is that other factors can affect its interpretation.  For
instance, if it’s dark in the room the two of you are in, her pupils will naturally dilate to
let in more light.

By the same token, if the woman is drunk or using drugs, her pupils will be dilated as
well, because other stimulants are working to excite her body.  So be aware of the
different factors at play when reading your target’s pupil dilation.

Secret #4:  The Eye Contact Test

I think you’re really going to like this secret, because I’m going to share a little trick with
you that I’ve developed that really makes it easy to meet a woman.

Too often, guys are simply too nervous to approach a girl because of the extreme amount
of uncertainty involved.  Think about it.  What runs through your head when you want to
meet a woman?

*  “Am I her type?”
*  “Does she have a boyfriend?”
*  “Will she find me attractive?”
*  “Maybe she’s too busy to meet anyone.”
*  “Will she be receptive to me talking to her?”

I’m sure you can think of a 100 more things that run through your mind when you see an
approach opportunity come your way.

If you get scared or nervous when this happens, it’s because of one thing:

UNCERTAINTY.

You don’t know how the girl you want to approach is going to respond!  So your scared
because the outcome MIGHT be negative!

Well, worry about this no more, because with this little trick I’m going to share with you,
you’ll never have to worry about a negative reaction again.

This little trick is so simple, ANYONE can do it!  And it’s a 100% fear free tactic.

We all know that eye contact is important, but something funny happens when we make
eye contact with another person.  We become COMPELLED to respond to them in some
fashion.  When it comes to women, you can use eye contact to find out if she’s open to
meeting you.  In fact, in a way, she’ll be opening YOU!

So here’s what you do…

The next time you see a woman you want to meet, LOCK your eyes on her!  Seriously,
just stare at her eyes, even if she’s not looking at you.

When people are out and about, they will usually look around to keep aware of their
surroundings.  This is an unconscious thing we all do.  Eventually, the woman you’re
locking onto will look around to scan the area.

When she comes to you, her eyes will invariably meet yours, and you’ll be locked in eye
contact.

When that happens, simply SMILE at her.

If she smiles back, guess what?  She’s OPEN TO YOU MEETING HER.  If she doesn’t,
then move on to someone who is.

And when she does smile back, say “Hi!”  And if she responds, you’re in!  Go right into
your opener.

I like to use this tactic in low-key situations, like grocery stores, coffee shops, book stores,
etc.  Even though it can work just as well in bars (as long as the light is high enough that
she can actually SEE you!).

Often times, after you smile, the girl herself will say “Hi!” and then the rest is easy.

The next time you go out, do this to every woman you see.  Lock your eyes onto them
and see what happens.  I guarantee you, you’ll be surprised by the results.

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