Avoid Focusing On Negativity

The human mind is a fascinating thing.

In fact, I’d go so far as to say your brain is the ULTIMATE attraction mechanism.

This is because whatever you focus on, you will attract to you.

Think about this for a moment… have you ever decided you were going to do something?
Maybe it was something you wanted to do for a long time, and never felt the time was
right for it?  Maybe it was taking a trip somewhere, or doing a special activity, or
achieving some type of goal?

And you found that when you set your mind to it, you were able to achieve it?

You actually WENT on that trip.

You actually DID that activity.

You actually ACHIEVED that goal.

And you did it because you focused on what you wanted.  You allowed your brain to
attract to you everything you needed to get what you wanted.

That is the power of the human mind – the power to attract that which it focuses on.

Which is why negativity is like POISON to helping you achieve what you want.

After I moved out to Los Angeles – a move which was very difficult for me, because I
was three thousand miles away from anyone I knew – a good friend of mine decided to
move out to Los Angeles to become a screenwriter.

He had written a script which I thought was pretty good, and I encouraged him to pursue
his writing, because I believed in his talent.

However, HE did not believe in his talent.  Instead of focusing on everything he had
going for him, he would focus on everything he had going against him.

His job sucked.

His script sucked.

This town was too difficult.

No one would give him a fair shot.

His parents told him to move back home because he was going to fail.

He didn’t want to submit his script to anyone because he felt like it was going to get
rejected.

My friend lasted six months in Los Angeles before he moved back home and gave up on
his dream of being a screenwriter.

He surrounded himself with negativity, and sure enough, his fears and insecurities
became a self-fulfilling prophesy.

But the funny thing is – this happens to EVERYONE who allows negative thoughts to
come into their life.

Remember this simple rule:  What we tend to focus on, we tend to attract.

If we focus on FAILURE…

“I can’t fail!  I can’t fail!”  “Oh my God, I hope I don’t mess this up…”  “This is going to
end badly, I just know it.”  “I don’t want to lose!” “I’m going to get rejected, I can feel
it…”

That is what we will attract, because we’re focusing on what we DON’T want.

If we focus on SUCCESS…

“I will succeed!  I will do this!”  “Oh my God, I know I can do this!”  “This is going to
end exactly how I want it to, I just know it!”  “I want to win!”  “I’m going to get this, I
can feel it…”

That is what we will attract, because we’re focusing on what we DO want.

It doesn’t matter if you add a negative qualifier into your thoughts or not.  Thinking “I
don’t want to fail” is still thinking about failure.  When you think about something, that is
what you will get.

This is why people who focus on “losing weight” never really get thin.  Because their
focus is still on their weight.  It’s the people who focus on being healthy and thin who
lose the weight and keep it off.

Instead of saying “I need to lose ten pounds!” they say “I need to feel good and get
healthy!”

By focusing on a positive, such as getting healthy, the weight naturally comes off.  By
focusing on a negative – trying to lose weight – the weight stays on.

This is doubly true in your love life.

Look at your current situation and ask yourself this:

*  Do you have people around you who don’t want you to succeed?
*  Do people tell you things that depress you about yourself?
*  Do you feel negative emotions toward women?
*  Do you rehearse failure?
*  Do you focus on feelings of fear and anxiety?
*  Do you obsess over your insecurities?

If the answer to all of the above is YES, then you have a great deal of negativity
surrounding your love life.

And negativity ALWAYS impedes results.

If you’re working so hard to get a girlfriend, or find a good woman, and it just isn’t
happening, it could be because you’re focusing on too many negatives.

Things like “I don’t want a woman who smokes,” as opposed to “I want a woman who is
healthy and vivacious.”

Things like “I look ugly,” as opposed to “I feel great!”

Things like “She’s out of my league,” as opposed to “Let’s see what kind of fun I can
have with her.”

Understand:  Life will give you what you want!  If you want negative things, that’s what
you will get.

If you want positive things, then that’s what you will get.

You must re-focus your thinking on what it is you want, and what you are grateful for
having, as opposed to what you don’t like and what you don’t want.

When you stop focusing on negativity, you’ll be surprised to find at how many positive
things you are able to attract into your life.

Not the LEAST of which are beautiful, wonderful women.

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