It’s one thing to think you’re fat, but if you spend all day eating bad foods and feeling
stuffed and bloated, then you’re brain says to itself “Hey, wait a minute!  I just don’t
think I LOOK fat, but I FEEL fat too!  That means I MUST be FAT!”

The same can be said of feeling Old, Ugly, Stupid, and being a Loser.  There are actions
that you perform that re-enforce all your negative beliefs.

I’d say there are probably five actions that go along with the five myths, and you will see
these are the most common behaviors that result from loser feelings and generate even
more negative feelings.  They are:

*  Bingeing
*  Pleasing
*  Whining
*  Procrastinating
*  Avoiding

These five actions are in a club no one wants to belong to, but once a member, you
cannot seem to resign from.  This is because beliefs, combined with actions, generate
habits.

Habits of thought and habits of action.  What you practice becomes your reality, and if
you practice thinking and acting Old, Fat, Ugly, Stupid, and like a Loser, you are taking
part in a self-fulfilling prophesy.

Good habits can generate amazing success in life.  But the bad habits can generate shame,
self-pity, anger, and anxiety — all of which can completely and utterly destroy your
confidence.

Let’s further define these actions.

The Binger.  Binging doesn’t just have to do with being Fat, it can relate to all the myths
you have about yourself.  Binging is the action of excess.  It’s always about one more
hamburger, one more drink, one more hit of ecstasy, one more lap dance.  The binger
feels out of control, like he can’t help himself, and spirals down to extremes he feels
ashamed of.  It’s this loss of control that makes him feel helpless, and reinforces all the
negative thoughts he has about himself.

The Pleaser tires from doing too much for others and not enough for himself.  He is
insecure about himself and his abilities, and seeks the approval of others to fulfill his
needs for validation.  He feels weak and dependent, alone and unappreciated.  He longs
for someone stronger than himself to come along and tell him what to do.  He’s upset at
his lack of strength.

The Whiner complains, resents, and despairs.  He feels sorry for himself because he
feels “unfairly treated” and there is “nothing he can do about it.”  The Whiner is always
the victim, never taking responsibility for his actions and therefore never learning from
his failures.  He’s afraid of success, since he has grown accustomed to whining about
what goes wrong.  The whiner attracts as much pain and suffering as he can to himself in
order make his complaints “real” and “valid,” despite the fact that it’s not in his own best
interest.  He feels angry and jealous, always seeing what he doesn’t have and not
focusing on what he does.

The Procrastinator prefers to work on all those trivial tasks – tidying his desk, cleaning
the kitchen, staring at the TV, or sleeping – rather than facing an important responsibility
that might not turn out well.  They’re complacent and scared, afraid to go past that which
is familiar and risk failure for the sake of success.  They prefer to be lazy than work hard,
and therefore see opportunity after opportunity pass them by.  They give into their fears,
hoping they will pass, as opposed to facing what they’re afraid of.  But procrastinating
never works out the way one hopes.  Before you know it, it’s too late, and you have
missed an opportunity, and now have to deal with the consequences of your inaction.

The Avoider somehow refuses to dial the phone to make the call he ought to make or to
make other social contacts that might expose him to criticism.  He always imagines the
worst happening, and doesn’t want to face the possibility that something could go
wrong.  He plays things “safe,” and works himself up into a ball of anxiety before
anything bad could possibly happen.  He’s a defeatist of the worst kind, thinking that he
knows things are going to turn out for the worst.

All five of these actions actively destroy confidence.  They re-enforce every negative
thought and feeling you have and negate every positive one you can experience.  They
are habit forming, and if your thoughts and feelings are going to change, these habits
must be broken.

Dan is one of my “natural” friends.  He’s the type of guy who easily picks up women
wherever he goes.  That day, we had gone down to Melrose to pick up some new clothes,
since most of the trendier stores are located there.

Of course, this also means some amazingly beautiful women are located there too!

During the afternoon, you can have hundreds of beautiful women walking up and down
Melrose Avenue shopping, eating lunch with their friends, or just hanging out.  Most of
them tend to be rich girls who don’t have to work.

Dan and I were heading towards the Johnny Rocket’s café.  I was talking about how I
needed to lose a few pounds to fit into some of the trendier shirts for sale in the shops
around here.

I was so into my conversation, that I didn’t notice the 5’6 brunette who passed me by.

Suddenly, Dan disengaged from the conversation and watched the girl go.  I looked at
him.

“What?” I asked.  “What is it?”

“Did you see that?” Dan asked.

“No, what happened?”

“She just checked you out,” Dan said, smiling and nudging me.

I turned and looked at the brunette.  She had kept walking, not even turning back to look
at me.

“No she didn’t!” I said.  “You’re full of crap.”

“You mean you didn’t notice?” said Dan.

“Notice what?  What the hell are you talking about?” I asked.

Dan shook his head.  “Joe, you need to wake up and stop being so oblivious to your
surroundings.  I bet women check you out all the time and you don’t even know it.”

I was taken aback by this.  “You can’t be serious.  I never have women check me out!”

“How do you know?” asked Dan.

“Look at me!” I said.  “Why would anyone check me out?”

“Why would anyone check me out?” Dan said, raising his arms to expose his whole body.
Dan may have been a natural, but he was 5’5 at best, with a bald head, pudgy gut, snagled
teeth, and a mangled left hand he had been born with.

Dan was a far cry from your typical idea of a ladies man.  But time and time again, I had
seen him pick up some very beautiful women just by his attitude.  That’s partly why I
became friends with him, to learn from him.

I sensed I was about to learn something at that moment.

“By all rights, women shouldn’t be checking me out, but they do,” said Dan.  “And they
check you out too.  Stop trying to project how you operate in your own head on women,
and don’t try to understand them, man.  Just accept the fact that you never know what
women will be attracted to, and go with it!”

“But, if I don’t know what they’re attracted to, how will I know if they’re checking me
out?” I asked.

Dan tapped me on the noggin.  “Pay attention, dummy.”

I rolled my eyes.  “Gee, thanks for the fortune cookie advice.”

Dan sighed.  “Do I have to teach you everything?”

“Apparently,” I said, getting a little irritated.

“Look, I’ll make it simple for you,” said Dan.  “Just look at their eyes.”

“Their eyes?”

“Yeah.  When you see them go like this…” Dan looked down at my feet, then scanned
his eyes back up to my face without moving his head.  “That means they just checked you
out.”

“Get serious,” I said.  “That’s just a glance.  Everyone does that.”

“And for what purpose?” asked Dan.  “When you see a hot girl, what’s the first thing you
do?”

“Um…”

“You look at the rest of her to see if the whole picture is something worth pursuing,” he
said.  “When that happens, what do you think your eyes do?”

Dan demonstrated the glance for me again.  As I thought about it, I realized he was right.
When I saw a girl’s face, the first thing I’d do would be to look up and down her body
instinctually.

“See, when a girl sees something she likes about you, she’ll scan the rest of your body to
see if there’s other stuff she likes,” explained Dan.

“But what if the stuff she doesn’t like outweighs the stuff she does like?”

Dan shook his head, “Doesn’t matter!” he said.  “What matters is that there was one thing
– just ONE thing about you she DID like!  And all it takes is one thing.  Once a woman
checks you out, that’s an invitation for you to pursue her.”

For the rest of that day, as we walked around, I paid close attention to the eyes of the
women we walked by, and sure enough, to my surprise, Dan was right.  There must have
been five or six girls who checked me out as I passed them by.

Dan was right to tell me to pay attention to the eyes, as the eyes are the most important
body language indicator there is.

Understand:  The eyes are the window to the soul.  They will always betray what a
person is thinking, if you’re deft enough to pay attention to them.

I’m going to share some secrets about eye contact with you that is going to help you meet
women like crazy.  I hope you’re ready for them, because I’m really spilling the beans
here.

Are you ready for it?

Here they come…

Secret #1:  The Vertical Scan

This is a major body language cue, and one that is hard to pick up if you’re not paying
attention.  Think about a woman you’ve seen that you found attractive.  What did you do?
Catch one look at her face, then looked down over her body, going from head to foot,
right?
In short, you were checking her out.

Women do the same thing.  When they see a man they’re attracted to, their eyes will go
from his face to his feet, because they want to see the whole package.

When you make eye contact with a woman, look at what her eyes do.  If they flick
downwards, guess what?  She just checked you out!

She liked what she saw in your face, and wanted to see the rest of you.  It doesn’t matter
if she looks away immediately afterwards, because she was attracted enough to you to
check you out.  That, my friends, is a major signal that she will be open to you
approaching her (especially if the vertical scan is followed by a smile!).

The only problem with this great signal is that it’s so easy to miss!  Women you haven’t
noticed yet may have already done it.  Also, it’s such a quick action, you can easily miss
it if you’re not careful.

So when looking for the eye scan, always pay careful attention!

Secret #2:  The Horizontal Scan

This is one of my favorite body language cues, because when this happens, you know
you’re in the home stretch!

This usually occurs after you’ve been talking to the girl for a while, you’ve successfully
attracted her, and it’s time to kiss.  When you look deep into her eyes, you’ll see them
flicking back and forth as she looks from one eye of yours to the other, trying to get a
read on you.

When you see this happen, go for the kiss right there!  She’s ready for it!

Secret #3:  Dilated Pupils

I’ve mentioned this one before, but I’ll reiterate it here.  A woman’s dilated pupils is an
unconscious attraction response.  The wider the pupils, the more attracted and excited the
woman is getting.

You’ll know what you’re doing is working when you look into a woman’s eyes and
notice the black iris part is rather large.  This is commonly referred to as the “Doggy
Dinner Look,” that you’ll see in cartoons when a dog is silently begging for it’s master to
feed it.

The problem with dilated pupils is that other factors can affect its interpretation.  For
instance, if it’s dark in the room the two of you are in, her pupils will naturally dilate to
let in more light.

By the same token, if the woman is drunk or using drugs, her pupils will be dilated as
well, because other stimulants are working to excite her body.  So be aware of the
different factors at play when reading your target’s pupil dilation.

Secret #4:  The Eye Contact Test

I think you’re really going to like this secret, because I’m going to share a little trick with
you that I’ve developed that really makes it easy to meet a woman.

Too often, guys are simply too nervous to approach a girl because of the extreme amount
of uncertainty involved.  Think about it.  What runs through your head when you want to
meet a woman?

*  “Am I her type?”
*  “Does she have a boyfriend?”
*  “Will she find me attractive?”
*  “Maybe she’s too busy to meet anyone.”
*  “Will she be receptive to me talking to her?”

I’m sure you can think of a 100 more things that run through your mind when you see an
approach opportunity come your way.

If you get scared or nervous when this happens, it’s because of one thing:

UNCERTAINTY.

You don’t know how the girl you want to approach is going to respond!  So your scared
because the outcome MIGHT be negative!

Well, worry about this no more, because with this little trick I’m going to share with you,
you’ll never have to worry about a negative reaction again.

This little trick is so simple, ANYONE can do it!  And it’s a 100% fear free tactic.

We all know that eye contact is important, but something funny happens when we make
eye contact with another person.  We become COMPELLED to respond to them in some
fashion.  When it comes to women, you can use eye contact to find out if she’s open to
meeting you.  In fact, in a way, she’ll be opening YOU!

So here’s what you do…

The next time you see a woman you want to meet, LOCK your eyes on her!  Seriously,
just stare at her eyes, even if she’s not looking at you.

When people are out and about, they will usually look around to keep aware of their
surroundings.  This is an unconscious thing we all do.  Eventually, the woman you’re
locking onto will look around to scan the area.

When she comes to you, her eyes will invariably meet yours, and you’ll be locked in eye
contact.

When that happens, simply SMILE at her.

If she smiles back, guess what?  She’s OPEN TO YOU MEETING HER.  If she doesn’t,
then move on to someone who is.

And when she does smile back, say “Hi!”  And if she responds, you’re in!  Go right into
your opener.

I like to use this tactic in low-key situations, like grocery stores, coffee shops, book stores,
etc.  Even though it can work just as well in bars (as long as the light is high enough that
she can actually SEE you!).

Often times, after you smile, the girl herself will say “Hi!” and then the rest is easy.

The next time you go out, do this to every woman you see.  Lock your eyes onto them
and see what happens.  I guarantee you, you’ll be surprised by the results.

He kicked my right foot to move it further away from my left foot.

“Ow!” I said.  “Why are you kicking me?”

“Dude,” exclaimed the instructor, “Your feet are too close together!  You have to have a
broad stance to project your ALPHA ENERGY.”

“But my feet are already shoulder- length apart,” I said.  “Any wider and I’ll look like
I’m straddling a horse.  Besides, who’s going to be looking at my feet in here?”

I gestured to the scene around me.  We were in the Saddle Ranch, a cowboy/western bar
in Hollywood famous for its mechanical bull which drunk girls would ride for the bar’s
amusement.  It was a Thursday night, and the place was packed.

I was taking my first in-field workshop.  My instructor, a rather nervous looking kid with
spiky red hair and high, squeaky voice was trying to instruct me.

“Dude, you serious?” he said.  “Girls NOTICE shoes, dude.  They look at your feet!”

“Okay, fine,” I said.

“Shoulders back,” he continued.  “Leave your hands at your side.  Don’t put them in your
pockets.”

“This doesn’t feel right,” I said.

“But it looks right, that’s what matters!” said my instructor.  “You have to be ALPHA!
Otherwise girls aren’t going to waste their time with you.”

With that, my instructor left to fix the feet of another student.  I stood in the middle of the
bar, feet spread apart, shoulders back, standing up straight, with my arms at my side.  A
cute little redhead carrying two beers passed me by, and stopped, looking at me.

“Are you okay?” she asked.

“Yeah,” I replied.  “Why?”
“You’re standing funny,” she smiled.

“I’m trying to be alpha,” I grinned.

She laughed.  “Well, good luck with that,” she said as she walked off.

I watched her go thinking, “Wow, I got a girl to talk to me just by the way I stood!”  My
instructor may not have been giving the best directions, but the idea behind them was a
powerful one.

We all communicate on many different levels.  The way we use our body speaks just as
loudly about us as our words do.

See, your appearance is part of your Body Language.

Not the appearance you’re born with, however, but the way you shape how you look.  It
is through how you rearrange your appearance that you transmit your sexuality to others.

When you see a beautiful woman with an average or below-average guy, and you ask her
why she finds him attractive, she may say something along the lines of “I don’t know.
It’s just something about him that he has… like an energy or an aura.”

Actually, it’s nothing of the sort.

In part, it’s how a man dresses that communicates certain things to a woman:  the type of
shirt you wear, the pants you put on, the jackets and ties you don, your hairstyle, the way
you shape your facial hair if you have any, the length of your sideburns, your tan, the
whiteness of your teeth – all these factors contribute to the immediate image people get
of you when they first see you.  But even more important than these things is how you
stand and how you walk.

When you move, move with grace.  I’m not talking about a ballerina type of grace here,
but rather an “arrogant” sort of grace that will garner attention.

In fact, you can directly translate arrogant grace into “macho swagger.”

Think of the way Russell Crow, Bruce Willis, Brad Pitt, and Mel Gibson walk, and you’ll
get an idea of what this is.  Its standing straight, shoulders slightly back (not hunched
over), walking and moving with an easy confidence that’s sure to get people’s attention.

Keep your hands out of your pockets.  When you put hands in your pockets, you look like
you have something to hide.

By the same token, don’t cross your arms.  Crossed arms make you look guarded and
stand-offish.

If you’re looking for something to do with your hands, lock your thumbs in your belt
above your pants pockets, with your fingers pointing down to your crotch.  If you lean up
against a wall or a bar, thrust your hips forward slightly (not too much, remember to be
subtle!).  This is a stance meant to communicate male sexuality.

You may think this is funny, me giving you advice witch is basically the equivalent of
“Point to your dick!!!!”  But look at the psychology behind it.

How many times have you seen this type of pose on TV or in the movies?  Not by the
hero, of course, but by the sexy bad boys that women so often swoon for?  When the bad
boys do it, it signals to everyone who sees them “I’m a sexual threat.  I am a dangerous
man for a woman to want to be with.  I am a man and I make no apologies for what I
want!”

On a smaller scale, this is exactly what you are communicating as well.  But in the bigger
picture, your goal should be to cultivate an aura of sexuality that will fascinate the
available women around you.

Don’t be afraid to take up space.  Especially if you’re in a crowded area.  You can
communicate this in how you stand and how you sit.

Stand straight up, shoulders back, legs shoulder-length apart, and hold your ground.
Don’t let others crowd you.

Too often, men will shrink their personal bubble in crowded areas so as not to touch
others.  Don’t do this.  Make physical contact with those around you and take up space.
This communicates a type of dominance to others, when they see others giving you the
space you want.

When you sit, lounge.  Be comfortable.  Sling your arm around the back of the chair.
Expose your crotch.  Lean back.  Show you’re at home with where you are.  (Note:  This
doesn’t mean you have to sit like this constantly.  Just communicate that you’re
comfortable).

Part of doing this is learning how to read a woman’s body language as well as projecting
yours.  Learn to size up the women around you and figure out who’s interested.  Look at
the way they stand or sit.  Make your choice and catch her eye.  If she’s interested, you’ll
see her respond to you in some fashion.  If she doesn’t, you might want to consider
moving on to a different target.

Be aware of how her body responds to you while you’re talking.  Are her arms clasped
defensively?  Open your arms up in response.  Is her posture stiff and rigid?  Relax your
body as you talk to her.  Is her face drawn tight?  Smile at her and relax your look.

In other words:  Answer her body signals with opposite and complimentary signals of
your own.

This works because you are essentially brushing aside her bad body language and
intruding with your own.

Unconsciously, other people want to open up with you, you just need to make them feel
comfortable enough to do so.  When you respond with the opposite body language, you
communicate to the woman you’re with that you’re relaxed and open, and that it’s safe
for her to do the same.

Learning how to use your body to communicate your feelings and attitude to others can
be a powerful thing.  It is important that you be comfortable with your body and how you
present yourself to others.

Everything I’ve listed above is a guideline on how to use your body to convey sexuality
and confidence.  But in the end, if you FEEL sexy and confident, your body will naturally
portray that.

If you don’t feel sexy and confident, use your body to portray those traits, and your
emotions will follow your body there.

Remember:  You have control over your body.  Use it to communicate the right
things.

But you need to have something that’s far more important than any of those things.

Something that is always with you and always projecting definitive signals which are
imperative for a romantic encounter with a woman.

The right Body Language.

With the right body language, when you enter a room, you will signal the “I’m available,
I’m masculine, I’m aggressive, and I know what I’m doing” vibe to every woman there.

And when you have your target in your sights, you can quickly and easily communicate
to her “I’m interested in you, you attract me, and I want to get to know you better.”

Women pick up on the subtle signals men put out.  It’s time you learned how best to use
them to your advantage.

And the best way to do this is to learn how to use your body.

This is something everyone can learn how to do, and can help put you on equal footing
with guys who are better looking than you are!

In fact, I’d go so far as to say your brain is the ULTIMATE attraction mechanism.

This is because whatever you focus on, you will attract to you.

Think about this for a moment… have you ever decided you were going to do something?
Maybe it was something you wanted to do for a long time, and never felt the time was
right for it?  Maybe it was taking a trip somewhere, or doing a special activity, or
achieving some type of goal?

And you found that when you set your mind to it, you were able to achieve it?

You actually WENT on that trip.

You actually DID that activity.

You actually ACHIEVED that goal.

And you did it because you focused on what you wanted.  You allowed your brain to
attract to you everything you needed to get what you wanted.

That is the power of the human mind – the power to attract that which it focuses on.

Which is why negativity is like POISON to helping you achieve what you want.

After I moved out to Los Angeles – a move which was very difficult for me, because I
was three thousand miles away from anyone I knew – a good friend of mine decided to
move out to Los Angeles to become a screenwriter.

He had written a script which I thought was pretty good, and I encouraged him to pursue
his writing, because I believed in his talent.

However, HE did not believe in his talent.  Instead of focusing on everything he had
going for him, he would focus on everything he had going against him.

His job sucked.

His script sucked.

This town was too difficult.

No one would give him a fair shot.

His parents told him to move back home because he was going to fail.

He didn’t want to submit his script to anyone because he felt like it was going to get
rejected.

My friend lasted six months in Los Angeles before he moved back home and gave up on
his dream of being a screenwriter.

He surrounded himself with negativity, and sure enough, his fears and insecurities
became a self-fulfilling prophesy.

But the funny thing is – this happens to EVERYONE who allows negative thoughts to
come into their life.

Remember this simple rule:  What we tend to focus on, we tend to attract.

If we focus on FAILURE…

“I can’t fail!  I can’t fail!”  “Oh my God, I hope I don’t mess this up…”  “This is going to
end badly, I just know it.”  “I don’t want to lose!” “I’m going to get rejected, I can feel
it…”

That is what we will attract, because we’re focusing on what we DON’T want.

If we focus on SUCCESS…

“I will succeed!  I will do this!”  “Oh my God, I know I can do this!”  “This is going to
end exactly how I want it to, I just know it!”  “I want to win!”  “I’m going to get this, I
can feel it…”

That is what we will attract, because we’re focusing on what we DO want.

It doesn’t matter if you add a negative qualifier into your thoughts or not.  Thinking “I
don’t want to fail” is still thinking about failure.  When you think about something, that is
what you will get.

This is why people who focus on “losing weight” never really get thin.  Because their
focus is still on their weight.  It’s the people who focus on being healthy and thin who
lose the weight and keep it off.

Instead of saying “I need to lose ten pounds!” they say “I need to feel good and get
healthy!”

By focusing on a positive, such as getting healthy, the weight naturally comes off.  By
focusing on a negative – trying to lose weight – the weight stays on.

This is doubly true in your love life.

Look at your current situation and ask yourself this:

*  Do you have people around you who don’t want you to succeed?
*  Do people tell you things that depress you about yourself?
*  Do you feel negative emotions toward women?
*  Do you rehearse failure?
*  Do you focus on feelings of fear and anxiety?
*  Do you obsess over your insecurities?

If the answer to all of the above is YES, then you have a great deal of negativity
surrounding your love life.

And negativity ALWAYS impedes results.

If you’re working so hard to get a girlfriend, or find a good woman, and it just isn’t
happening, it could be because you’re focusing on too many negatives.

Things like “I don’t want a woman who smokes,” as opposed to “I want a woman who is
healthy and vivacious.”

Things like “I look ugly,” as opposed to “I feel great!”

Things like “She’s out of my league,” as opposed to “Let’s see what kind of fun I can
have with her.”

Understand:  Life will give you what you want!  If you want negative things, that’s what
you will get.

If you want positive things, then that’s what you will get.

You must re-focus your thinking on what it is you want, and what you are grateful for
having, as opposed to what you don’t like and what you don’t want.

When you stop focusing on negativity, you’ll be surprised to find at how many positive
things you are able to attract into your life.

Not the LEAST of which are beautiful, wonderful women.

I emphasize this because I have seen too many people attempt to take the “Great Leap
Forward” instead of taking baby steps.

We have all seen people, who are completely out of shape, suddenly decide to lose 20
pounds and get into shape.  They begin a crash diet, go to the gym for two hours, and
then jog 10 miles.  This lasts maybe a week.  They lose a few pounds, and then the pain,
boredom, and hunger begin to wear away at their will power and determination.  By the
third week, their old habits of overeating, lack of exercise, and television are back in
control.

Instead of taking a “Great Leap Forward,” I would strongly recommend taking a baby
step forward.

Long term success with women is not measured on how much material you memorize or
how many women you approach.  Long term success with women is measured in the
number of steps, in which direction you’re moving and in numbers of years.

We have all heard the saying “Rome was not built in a day.”  So you can’t expect to
become a true Don Juan overnight.

That doesn’t mean you can’t expect results overnight, though.  It all depends on how you
define your results.

There’s an old joke that goes “How do you eat an elephant?”  The answer is “One bite at
a time.”  And that is how I recommend you proceed if you find yourself feeling even a
little bit overwhelmed by how much you have to learn in order to have the kind of love
life you desire.

Please be kind to yourself and realize that the transition is more than just mental learning,
the process also involves emotional learning.  After you can take baby steps for six
months to a year, you are ready for the next saying which is “You have to walk before
you can run.”  In other words, you go from baby steps, to walking, and then to running.

This is the path I recommend.  If you don’t like this path, then you can do what millions
of men do who want to get a girlfriend and get married – settle for what you’re “lucky”
enough to get.

So if you’re ready, let’s take our first step… together.

A question I am asked a lot is “Am I a loser if I have to learn how to pick up women?”

This is a question I hate to hear.

The reason I hate to hear it is because I hate that the question even exists.

We have a notion in this world that we must go to school and get a good education so we
can be successful in life.

But I find, more often than not, the most important skills to learn are not only ignored by
our schools and society at large, but actively shunned.

Things like dating, sex, and finances – arguably three of the most important things in life
– are completely overlooked in the development of human beings.

Is it any wonder we have so many cases of depression, anxiety, loneliness, divorce,
sexual dysfunction, and debt in the world?

Often, we are left to our own devices to learn these skills on our own, through trial and
error.  Some succeed at it, but most do not.  The people who don’t succeed in learning
them on their own get caught in a vicious cycle where bad behaviors are re-enforced and
skills stagnate instead of develop.

Healthy relationships are VITAL to living a happy life.  Nothing can compare to the
company of a good woman you love.  In the end, I think that’s all any man wants.  The
world could end tomorrow, and all we’d want today is to find solace in our lover’s arms.

But instead of being taught correctly by society on how to be happy, we are made to feel
guilty about our desires, about sex, about dating.  We’re taught the wrong way to do
things – things that might have worked 100 to 1,000 years ago, but are useless today.

We still try to win affection with gifts, even though we know that is a waste of a great
deal of time and effort.

We obsess over our looks, even though we can’t really change who we are.

We obsess over what kind of car we drive, what kind of clothes we wear, and how our
hair is styled, even though what’s in fashion today can easily fall out of fashion tomorrow.

But there are skills that are effective, proven to work, and have stood the test of time.
They are skills that only 10% of the world’s male population know and make use of – but
none of them teach.

It is true that I believe 90% of the men in this world completely lack the skills necessary
to be truly happy with their relationships.  Some settle for what they can get.  Some get
lucky.  Some struggle for years to find a mate.  Some never find one.

To think you are a loser for seeking out help with your love life is false.  Knowing you’re
not happy and seeking help to fix that is smart.  It’s healthy.  But above all, it’s necessary.

You would not think there was something wrong with you if you sought out help learning
to read, or do math, or fix a car, or build a house.

But so many people think that learning to do something as vital to your happiness as
finding a good woman you can love and love you back means there’s something wrong
with them!  That they’re a loser, or a failure.

That is just, plain, WRONG.

The very fact that you’re reading this book right now says a lot about you.  It says you’re
willing to change, to start developing your skills in relationships with women so you can
find true happiness.

The art of relationship skills is about laying a foundation upon which to build a strong
skill set that will help you to powerfully meet, date, and attract women of your choosing.

It is about setting the stage for what is to come.